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Every group of friends, however big or small, consists of many different characters. The quiet ones, the cocky storytellers, the cool kids, the wallflowers, the clowns…

Today we want to present a very special kind of character and explain to you why every group needs especially this kind of friend in their life.

She’s never beating about the bush, because she is not afraid to always say everything exactly as it is. She’s funny, even if her humour is sometimes a bit mean or now and then she likes to have fun at your expense. You don’t want to mess with her, because no matter how small she may be, or how innocent she looks, she’s never afraid to go head-to-head with someone (and usually comes out of it victoriously).

Thankfully, she's your friend and you know that she’ll always tells you if you’re out of line and most importantly that despite everything else she’ll always have your back.

That description seems familiar? Well, that probably means you have a Lyds in your friend group! Why that’s a good thing (and sometimes still sucks)? We’re looking forward to explaining exactly that!

As we said before, a Lyds is the kind of friends that always tells you the truth without babying you or your feelings. You want to know if the outfit you put together for your next date actually looks as good on you as you think? Ask your Lyds, because she’d never let you go anywhere in an ill-fitting dress just to spare your precious feelings.

Speaking of dates … if she had the feeling that something fishy is going on with your potential new suitor she’d be the first to tell you even if you really don’t want to hear her concerns in that specific moment.

On the other hand she’d be the first at your side if the date went south. Of course she wouldn’t even try to console or coddle you but would instead find 100 different reasons why that moron wasn’t good enough for you anyway. And should she be the only one that even knows of that horrible failed date it’s definitely going to stay that way. Every Lyds is like a vault and would never break your trust by giving away your secrets.

 

To summarise: a Lyds will

  • never lie to you
  • never sugar coat the truth just to go easy on you
  • always have your back and defend you if necessary
  • fight for you if you can’t do it yourself
  • never treat you like a delicate little flower
  • make you laugh often … even about yourself
  • take your secrets to the grave with her

 

While all of this might sound great in theory, in reality it often leads to misunderstandings, fights or worst of all to the end of the friendship. Because even though every Lyds deep down means well…sometimes words hurt and the truth even more so.

So, the next time your Lyds tells you an uncomfortable truth in a not exactly empathetic manners and your first impulse is to never speak to her again … just take a deep breath and try to really think about it in a calm manner.

Your Lyds is your friend, right? So, she’d never hurt you on purpose. On the contrary. Your Lyds only wants what is best for you even if while doing so she says really mean things and hurts your feeling

But not talking to each other or even ending the friendship is not an acceptable solution.

What to do?

Our tip? Talk, talk, talk!

Your friend’s words – however honest or well-meant they were – have hurt you deeply? Tell her then! In all likelihood she never intended to upset you.

Simply explain to your friend what it was exactly that hurt you. Her choice of words? Her tone of voice? Did she seem unkind? Or did she even overstep and tamper with something that’s none of her business?

You’re friends and friends can tell each other everything. Your Lyds never minces matters and always gives you a piece of her mind? So why not pay her back in kind and simply tell her how bad you feel because of her words and how she could change to do better in the future.

Because one thing is very clear: even though your Lyds always seems cool and like she doesn’t let anything, or anyone come near her … you are super important to her and she most definitely doesn’t want to lose you!

At this point we also want to call attention to the sad fact that there’s another type of character that sometimes weasels it’s way into a group of friends:

The Fake-Lyds

The kind of “friend” that only pretends to stay by your side, that makes jokes only at the expense of others, that twists the truth to manipulate you and only tells you those things you want to hear or those that help her in some way. The kind of “friend” that slowly sneaks up on you and into your life, until you tell her all of your secrets which she’ll use against you sooner or later.

Sadly it’s hard to differentiate between the real and the fake-Lyds in the beginning.

Here are some sign that might help you recognise a fake-Lyds before it’s too late:

  • Everything she does is for her own enjoyment (even if you’re part of that enjoyment)
  • You’re often the punchline to her jokes even though it hurts you, which she knows of course, which is also the reason why she constantly apologizes for it
  • The fake-Lyds never makes jokes at her own expense (while the real one can totally laugh about herself)
  • She treats you differently depending on whether you are in public or in private, especially if there’s someone around who she thinks is more “interesting” than you

Of course we wish you’d never encounter a fake-Lyds, but should it ever come to that don’t ever forget that somewhere your real Lyds is already waiting to joke about it with you.

 

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6 comments

  • I knew a fake Lyds me being the naive child I was I trusted anyone until I realized that she left me for some guy I defended her from her ex who slapped her and was their when she needed a shoulder to cry on She went from a friend that i loved dearly to someone who left me like an old doll I remember the night I realized it I was in bed thinking about School since it was summer and i was going to middle school here in the US and then it clicked she didn’t care for me she just wanted to be popular she rather hangout with rude guys then her friends I didn’t give up on her until that night but I’ve met people who I’m proud to call friends

  • Wow…never thought I’d see such an accurate descrption of myself. Especially as a Lyds because I just think it’s right to be truthful to your friends. Thanks so much for the heads up about the fake Lyds!!

  • I can understand this to be honest I’m kinda like the Lyds of anyone I’m friends with…. If you can call them friends I might be like Lyds but I’m also a little on the naive side of things so I have friends that use me all the time. But in the end I always try to do whats best for them never myself no matter how I feel inside I could be dieing inside but my friends always come before myself.

    I also want to thank you Anna and Damien if it wasn’t for your music coming into my life when it did I really don’t know where I would be right now thank you so much you are the greatest.

  • I know a few fake Lyds but I know a ton of real Lyds. I may still be in school but I know who I want to have as a friend and who I don’t. For 3 years I had this one friend my cousin knew who always always wanted to dance and she would refuse to dance alone. Because I love dancing I would join her but she would consistently find something to yell at me for. She’d even yell at me for the way I sit down. When me and my boyfriend broke up it was a lit fuse for her, she would consistently yell at me saying if was my fault and even started saying I wasn’t good enough to live. Thankfully my best friend and my cousin found out about it all and confronted her. Now I am much happier and free to do as I like again because she and I don’t see each other again.😁

  • I know a few fake Lyds but I know a ton of real Lyds. I may still be in school but I know who I want to have as a friend and who I don’t. For 3 years I had this one friend my cousin knew who always always wanted to dance and she would refuse to dance alone. Because I love dancing I would join her but she would consistently find something to yell at me for. She’d even yell at me for the way I sit down. When me and my boyfriend broke up it was a lit fuse for her, she would consistently yell at me saying if was my fault and even started saying I wasn’t good enough to live. Thankfully my best friend and my cousin found out about it all and confronted her. Now I am much happier and free to do as I like again because she and I don’t see each other again.😁

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